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A Death in the Family

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Not a happy tale today….  Yesterday, one of our older cats had to be assisted in shuffling off this mortal coil. That’s a difficult thing at the best of times but, it was probably made a little easier in this case because it was something we had actually been expecting for quite a while.

When my wife and I bought our farm in New Brunswick back in the late 90’s we inherited two cats who were abandoned there by the previous owners. These two cats were very much ‘barn cats’ and, although we left food out for them (to supplement their diet of mice) they didn’t come into the house very much at first and, accordingly, we simply named them ‘Barn Kitty 1’ and ‘Barn Kitty 2’.

Gradually though, the pair began to sleep inside the house and thereafter continued to hunt for amusement rather than sustenance. Over time, ‘BK1’ was transmogrified into ‘Big Fat Kitty’ as her girth increased with the soft life, while ‘BK2’, now immortalized in the above picture’ had her name changed to ‘Fluffy’. When we sold our farm in 2000 and moved north, the two old cats moved with us, and our family eventually included 5 cats in all… until yesterday, of course.

We have no idea how old Fluffy was as she was clearly a fully grown adult when we inherited her. She was with us for about 16 years and was, at our best guess, well over twenty. About two years ago, it became apparent that she was almost totally deaf and her eyesight was obviously beginning to fail as well. She was never a big solid cat like BFK, quite skinny in fact, but over the last year or so she became scrawnier and scrawnier and we got used to the fact that she probably wouldn’t be with us much longer.

At the end, Fluffy’s final decline was very rapid. A few days earlier, she began walking very awkwardly and it was obvious that, if she could see anything at all, her eyesight was just about gone. She was reluctant to lie down and would half stand, half crouch with her head almost resting on the floor, sometime panting, sometimes deathly still. It was, I recall thinking, disturbingly like the last days of Elizabeth I, who reputedly refused to take to her bed and remained on her feet for hours upon hours before finally giving out. It was obvious the poor cat was not having a happy time and thus we knew we had to make ‘the call’ to the vet.

Anyway, no moralizing or philosophical musings on euthanasia here… I just would like to say that we were very, very glad to be able to see our pet off more easily than she would have gone otherwise…

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  1. I am so sorry about Fluffy. Saying goodbye to a beloved member of the family is always awful, but I’m glad you were with her at the end and that she went easily. Condolences to you and your family. 😦

    May 12, 2013
    • Thanks Madame W. … It’s funny, but a couple of the other cats knew something was wrong with her and were coming up and ‘nosing’ her. That’s something they never did before.

      May 12, 2013
  2. I’m sorry for your lost, but yes, you were ther with her until the end and gave her a very long and happy life.

    May 12, 2013
    • I just regret that she couldn’t have lived until we finally move south so that she could have enjoyed the outdoors again 😦

      May 12, 2013
      • Yes, but I’m guessing she was happy just being around her family, no matter if the weather outside was cold or hot…

        May 12, 2013
  3. That’s always sad as these lovely creatures become members of the family.It is good that you were with her as she passed.

    May 12, 2013
    • Yes … we lost another several years ago when we lived further north. We had to send her south with a friend to go to the vet where liver cancer was diagnosed. She died before she could come home.

      May 12, 2013
      • I’m sorry. We decided not to have another some years ago when our eldest took our last cat (now 19years old) to live with her. We were sad to let her go but she is much happier in the countryside.

        May 12, 2013
  4. I am sorry for your loss. I am sure fond memories will forever be with you.

    May 12, 2013
    • Back in our farm days, she used to come into the fields and watch me while I dug fence post holes or collected leftover potatoes from the harvest.

      May 12, 2013
  5. Sorry to hear that BK2 has gone. An assisted end is much better than a painful one.

    May 12, 2013
    • Absolutely… at least it wasn’t due to a much worse trauma.

      May 12, 2013
  6. What a wonderful life you gave BK2 – love and more than just sustenance. And you loved her enough to do right by her They deserve all the respect and love we can give them and it sounds like you did right by her. I’m sorry because it is always sad to have to do this, but they always remain part of us and our lives.

    May 12, 2013
  7. I had to assist in much the same way when our 23 year old Licorice was at the very end, and in pain. They do leave a little hole in our lives. I think they know they are loved even at the very end.

    May 13, 2013
  8. you did the humane thing for a much loved animal–goodbye to a part of your family

    May 13, 2013
  9. I am so sorry for your loss of a dear companion. How loving of you and your family to take her in and care for her. I have a 19 year old cat and I know within the next few years I’ll have to also make that decision. God Bless You!

    May 13, 2013
  10. So hard to lose one. So sorry to hear.

    May 13, 2013
  11. I’m sorry for your loss, John. It sounds like you gave her a beautiful life.

    May 13, 2013
  12. My deepest condolences. I almost gone crazy when my
    kitty-buddy’ died. So I know what you are going through.

    May 14, 2013

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